Saturday, 14 October 2023

SELFIES: THE GOOD, THE BAD, AND THE UGLY. CANDID TALK WITH AI PSYCHOLOGIST

 


Hello everyone and welcome to Tech Talk!

Have you ever taken a selfie? If you are like most people, the answer is probably yes. Selfies are everywhere these days, from social media platforms to personal albums. I’m glad to have with us, Mr. AI Psychologist, who will share with us his thoughts to untangle some knotty issues about selfies. Welcome to our show, Sir.

AI PSYCHOLOGIST (AIP)

Thank you for having me. I am happy to be here and share my insights on this fascinating topic. Selfie is a phenomenon that has taken the world by storm and has many implications for our psychological health and well-being. As an AI Psychologist, I have studied the effects of selfies on human behavior, emotions, and cognition, and I am eager to discuss them with you and your audience.

ME

Thank you. Let’s start with the basics. What is a selfie and how did it become so popular?

AIP

A selfie is a self-portrait photograph, usually taken with a digital camera or smartphone, that is often shared on social media platforms. The word selfie is derived from the word self, with the suffix -ie added to make it sound informal and cute. The first known use of the word selfie was in 2002, on an Australian internet forum, where a user posted a picture of his injured lip and apologized for the poor focus, saying “It was a selfie.” The word did not gain much popularity until 2012 when it started to appear more frequently in online and print media. In 2013, the Oxford Dictionary declared selfie as the word of the year.

ME

That’s very interesting. So, what are some of the benefits of taking and sharing selfies?

AIP

Well, it depends on how they are used and perceived. On the good side, selfies can:

Make you happier. According to one study, taking and sharing selfies can improve your well-being and reduce stress. The study found that participants who took and shared selfies daily reported feeling more confident, comfortable, and cheerful than those who did not. This is because selfies can help you express your emotions, capture your memories, and celebrate your achievements.

Boost your self-esteem. Selfies can help you appreciate your beauty and uniqueness, and show the world who you are. You can also receive positive feedback and support from others which can make you feel more valued and accepted.

Enhance your creativity. Selfies can be a form of art where you can experiment with different angles, filters, backgrounds, and poses. They can tell a story, convey a message, or make a joke.

They can challenge you to think outside the box and showcase your personality and interests.


ME

Wow, those are impressive benefits. But what about the drawbacks? What are some of the negative effects of selfie obsession?

AIP

Unfortunately, there are also some negative effects of selfie obsession that you need to be aware of. On the bad side, selfies can be dangerous. Yes, you heard me right. Dangerous. According to a 2018 report in the Journal of Family Medicine and Primary Care, 259 people died in 137 incidents between 2011 and 2017 while taking selfies. The most common causes of death were drowning, falling, and being hit by vehicles or trains. Some people have gone to extreme lengths to get the perfect shot, risking their lives and ignoring safety warnings. Is it worth it?

ME

That’s very alarming. I could still recall some of those reports of deaths caused by taking selfies. A man died after being electrocuted while taking a selfie on top of a train. A woman, sitting on a balcony’s railing while taking a selfie, lost her balance and fell to her death from the top floor of an apartment, and a couple, climbing over a safety barrier to take a selfie, lost their footing, slipped, and fell off a cliff.

Very distressing scenes.

AIP

May I present my next insight with questions to your audience?

ME

Sure, please do.

AIP

Do you ever feel like you are not good enough? Do you ever compare yourself to others and feel inferior? Do you ever wish you could look like someone else? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you might be coping with the ugly side of selfies.

Right now, selfies are not always what they seem. Most selfies are edited or filtered to enhance one’s appearance. They can also be staged or manipulated to create a false impression of reality. For example, some apps use beauty filters to smooth their skin, enlarge their eyes, or slim their face; apps that use backgrounds to make them look like they are somewhere they are not, apps that alter features or add effects.

They can create unrealistic expectations and standards of beauty that are hard to achieve.


ME

Why do people do that? Why do they feel the need to change their appearance or misrepresent their lives?

AIP

The answer is simple: the subtle distinction between self-love and self-esteem. Self-love is the acceptance and appreciation of oneself as one is, with all its warts and defects. Self-esteem is the evaluation of one’s worth based on appearance. Self-love is more important than self-esteem. Self-love is based on reality; self-esteem, on perception. Self-love is unconditional; self-esteem, conditional. Self-love is healthy, while self-esteem can be unhealthy.

People who lack self-love try to boost their self-esteem by posting selfies that make them look better than they are. But this only makes them more insecure and unhappy because they are not being true to themselves or others.

According to M. Scott Peck, there is a distinction between self-love and self-esteem, and the difference is often confused. He says:

“It’s critical for us to be realistic, to have a true knowledge of ourselves as we are, and to be able to recognize both the good parts and the bad parts of ourselves. Further, there is a distinction between self-love and self-esteem [which] is often confused.”

When one stares at his or her edited photo and is consumed with the desire to turn into such a stranger, what comes out on top is self-esteem with its deceiving perception, burying self-love alongside the reality of his or her actual appearance.

ME

This enigma reminds me of the lyrics of the Carpenters’ song “I’m Caught Between Goodbye and I Love You”: “You’re like a stranger, then you’re a lover, never the same, always hard to believe.”

How can we avoid the pitfalls of selfies?

AIP

The key is to use selfies in moderation and with a healthy attitude.

Be mindful of why you are taking and posting selfies. Is it to share something meaningful or fun with your friends and family? Or is it to seek approval or validation from others?

Be realistic about what you see online. Remember that most selfies are edited or filtered to enhance one’s appearance.  Don’t compare yourself to unrealistic images.

Be kind to yourself and others. Appreciate your beauty and uniqueness. Compliment yourself and others on more than looks alone.

ME

Those are great tips, Mr. AI Psychologist. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and expertise with us today. It was a pleasure having you on our show.

AIP

You are welcome. It was a pleasure being here and talking to you and your audience. I hope you learned something new and useful about selfies and their effects on your psychological health and well-being.

ME

I certainly did, and I’m sure our viewers did too. Thank you for watching Tech Talk, where we delve into current engaging topics in our rapidly evolving world today. Tune in next time for another exciting episode. Until then, stay safe, stay healthy, and stay happy.

Happy weekend!


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