Tuesday, 21 June 2022

ROLE MODEL: SUCH LONELY WORDS TODAY

 


“He threw his other slipper into the river’s onrushing water.”

That was the punch line our elementary school teacher gave away while telling our whole class the story about Dr. Jose Rizal who did throw his slipper after the other one had fallen into the water. “Why?” I quietly asked myself. She said someone downstream would find the pair. “Wow!” I murmured. All at once, not only did such a selfless act leave an indelible mark in my mind, but also it touched me in looking up to Rizal ever since that day as a hero. Our teacher won the day by telling us to follow in the footsteps of Rizal as our role model.

(Btw, public historian Ambeth R. Ocampo in his PDI column wrote, “There is no historical basis for this story, and if it were true, Rizal was just being pilosopo to avoid punishment.” Let alone, it’s unthinkable that anyone could find that thrown pair of slippers together downstream.)

MENTORS

During my high school years, my role models were my mentors – my late two brothers and a sister (mechanical, civil, and chemical engineering students respectively then) – who paved the way for me to become a civil engineer. My eldest brother, Toto, broke the ice of mathematics on me one mentoring day by mouthing off: “x plus x equals 2x, x times x equals x squared. Don’t ask me why. Just accept it. Period.” Another brother, Rolly, fired my imagination in the world of drawings, paintings, and creative writing, among other artistic perspectives of engineering.

This one-liner reminds me of my late sister, Nasie: “I told a chemistry joke, there was no reaction” – speaks volumes humorously about the sober faces one imagines seeing inside the chemical engineering labs. But, far from it, what I came upon lying underneath such an aloof chemical engineer’s façade was an invisible tender heart. Right after I left home for the first time to get my high school learning off the ground in a faraway strange place, it was my sister who played the role of a surrogate mother during that challenging period of my living in a boarding house -- like a 12-year-old boy in an orphanage.

During my college years, oddly, not a hint of any role model flashed back, apart from that morsel of a drifting flux called Love -- which I had a sneaking feeling was a spillover of the spirit of the 60s – the so-called Love Generation. It shaped the way for today’s free thinkers and dreamers: make love not war theme synthesizing with the sounds in the airwaves of The Beatles, Bob Dylan, and The Mamas and the Papas, among others. I bought then a book at a school campus store that delved into the Biblical phrase, “Love casts out fear.” Amazingly, the essence of the book cast out my fear induced by the campus security issues then: military presence and ethnic discord.

During my corporate heyday, “management gurus” were the buzzword for mentors whose out-of-the-box, brand-spanking-new management theories dominated over the workplace in stacks of hot-off-the-press books with prominent authors then like Tom Peters, and Stephen Covey, among others.

ICON

            Today, aside from writing, I still love movies and Hollywood icons. One actor I hold in high regard is Denzel Washington whose commencement address to Dillard University in 2015 (University of Pennsylvania in 2011) I am excerpting below:

“One, put God first in everything you do… do what I’ve done, and stick with God. Two, fail big. Today is the beginning of the rest of your life, and it can be very frightening… Do what you feel passionate about… Don’t be afraid to fail…have dreams… but have goals… apply discipline and consistency… hard work works… Three, you’ll never see a U-Haul behind a hearse. I don’t care how much money you make, you can’t take it with you…Finally, I pray that you put your slippers, way under the bed tonight, so that when you wake up in the morning, you have to get on your knees to reach them… Say, thank you.”

The embedded nuggets of wisdom above are so rousing that his videos have gathered close to 50 million viewers on YouTube.

I picked out Denzel as a role model not only do I rate him highly as a Hollywood actor, but also he is: a) a foreigner and dodges the biblical rebuff: “no prophet is accepted in his country”; and b) non-partisan in our present polarized political plight.

The impact of Denzel’s soul-stirring speech was as dramatic as his big-league presence at the graduation which the universities have deemed as an exemplary role model for their graduates to emulate. And why not? He has been described by The Cine-Files as an actor (besides being a director and a producer) who reconfigured “the concept of classic movie stardom.” Two-time Academy Award winner, Denzel was named by The New York Times as the greatest actor of the 21st century. On October 11, 2021, the U.S. Army made Denzel the Honorary Sergeant Major of the Army for his work providing free homes for military families while receiving medical care.


WANTED ROLE MODELS

What about the role models among us – particularly those at the top of the power totem pole? Here’s a Pinoy-on-the-street’s deep-rooted comment that encapsulates the low-grade value of role models in our country today:

“Filipinos are intrinsically disciplined people. Offshore, Filipinos manifest discipline, leading to an improved life. In the Philippines, however, Filipinos tend to forget discipline since public officials and law enforcers show undisciplined behavior, we lack ROLE MODELS (underscoring mine) that we can emulate and that can serve as the standard of discipline.” (Edwin Monares, Rizal)

Based on Pew Research Center, 4.2 million Filipinos are living in the U.S. as of 2019 – the third-largest Asian origin group – which begs the question: Why is the group’s representation in U.S. Congress has been sparse?

Professor Pei-te Lien, an Asian-American specialist at the University of California, came up with the key. NBC News reported that "she and her colleagues have continuously wondered why the [Filipino-American's] political power hasn't followed the growth of its populations." She said:

"The group could do a lot more in terms of visibility in mainstream politics, but you need some ROLE MODELS [underscoring mine]…”

Sad to say, we have these PH role model triple whammies today:

Exhibit A. The SUV hit and run case: a special privilege in action. “Kapag mahirap nagnakaw ng bayabas kulong agad! What’s happening to our country, Mr. President?” outgoing Senate President Vicente Sotto III tweeted.

Exhibit B. “The stupidest thing I heard today is Robin Padilla forgiving Aljur for breaking his daughter’s heart with no apologies because it’s 'natural' for men to cheat.” (Nate) As an actor, Robin Padilla’s own role model should have been Denzel Washington, being in the same industry.

Exhibit C: “If Bongbong Marcos wins, P328-Billion ill-gotten wealth, unpaid taxes may not be recovered.” (Former Associate Justice Antonio Carpio)

Quo vadis, PH?


Head still photo courtesy of Pixabay

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